I remember dating in the days before cell phones, texting and Facebook. I know it sounds absolutely prehistoric but believe it or not it wasn't that long ago. Where you could go all day without being in communication with your significant other, well, because you had no choice. And let me tell you, men prefer those days. How much is too much information? A story if I may, we were having a family dinner and my brother was complaining about his current love interest. I would say girlfriend but she didn't last long enough. Apparently she was fond of sending the occasional random text just updating the poor guy on her day. He miserably provided examples and I tsked tsked my way through them, shaking my head. Some women. I turn to see the Romanian staring at me in amazement. "what?" I ask. "you do that," he replies. Me? What? Excuse me? I then pull out my phone and go through my sent texts eager to dispute. To my horror, I am guilty, I cannot meet the disappointed eyeballs of my brother. I hang my head in shame. My sister cackles. Since then I have tried to curb my random texting but sometimes my phone gets the better of me. To be fair to the Romanian, he replies, mostly with one word answers, but he replies.
Now Facebook, how much disclosure is necessary? Everything is now available to you, from the moment they signed on to their most recent status update. Every picture, every comment, every "like" is there for your viewing (stalking) pleasure. Now ladies, and some men, please keep in mind ALL activity before your introduction into your SO's life cannot be used as ammunition for arguments. Also, please keep in mind that they had a life before you and knew people before you and will most likely maintain those relationships.
Now, in my opinion Facebook takes the mystery out of relationships. What is left to talk about at the end of the day? If anything exciting happened it's already been put out there via your status, so they already know. Also, keep your drama off your wall. I am very particular with NOT posting every time the Romanian and I have a disagreement and I hate those passive aggressive status updates, saying but not really saying what a asshole you're dating. Sigh.
So, be careful how much you share, how often you share and what you share. Also, be careful how much you creep, how often you creep and what you creep. Moderation.
